Sunday, Feb. 13, is known as World Marriage Day. Marriage, by definition is “the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a relationship.” The Church defines marriage as “a Sacrament of lasting commitment of a man and a woman to a lifelong partnership, established for the good of each other and the procreation of their children.” My favorite unofficial definition comes from the Holy Father himself, Pope Francis: “Marriage, is the most beautiful thing God has ever created.”
Beautiful indeed. This year, World Marriage Day means so much more to me because on that day, I will officially have been married for at least nine hours. I know – a whopping nine hours. My fiancée and I are to be wed Feb. 12 at our home parish, and we could not be more excited.
As I begin to send materials to our parishes regarding National Marriage Week (Feb. 7-14), I cannot help but think about Estrellita and our journey to the altar. Some backstory: Estrellita, or Star as many know her, and I met in high school – sophomore year to be exact. We passed each other in the hallways and probably shared the same lunch period and study hall, but I never realized who she was. That all changed rather quickly.
Star and I were on a retreat, and I can remember being absolutely floored by her humble attitude and striking beauty. I know, I know. Many of you at this point are probably thinking this is not what retreats are for, and I agree! However it was my prayer that brought us together. See, before Star and I started to participate in the retreat that day, I showed up with a simple prayer on my mind and heart. “Lord, send someone my way that will love me for me.” BOOM! Star walks into the church, and the rest is history. After many trials and learning curves, we are to be wed. I consider this to be the biggest blessing in my life to date.
Understanding the sacredness of marriage and what that means for me is of upmost importance. It is so much more than what I was culturally taught; it is more than what society teaches. What the Church teaches about marriage is that love and family is not simply catechesis, it is life. There are couples that surround Star and I who have been married six months, 16 years and even 20, 30, 40 or 50 years. The one thing they all share: Christ and his love. His love for them as individuals and as a couple.
As we prepared for our wedding, our parish priest reminded us often: Love each other as Christ loves you, unconditionally. Pray for each other always; offer the Mass for the other. Never stop courting each other.
I realize that I am the new guy on this marriage journey, and many of you could share advice for a successful marriage. So I ask: Have you prayed for your spouse today? Attended Mass together? Gone on a date recently? Be an example for other newlyweds like myself and help those walking this path.
Today I pray for all married couples, young and old, of our Diocese. Happy World Marriage Day.
Jose Rodriguez is diocesan director of Family and Youth Ministry.
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